THE MISUNDERSTOOD SOCIAL WORKER
|Posted on March 10, 2014 at 1:35 AM||comments (2)|
FORGIVENESS, FORGIVING, FORGIVE...
Far too often relationships, situations, circumstances or people can lead us to harbor angry and bitter feelings. These feelings can often imprison us!, preventing anyone from moving past the problem, and coming to a place of healing and resolve. Moreover, its easy to hold on to the past issue for reasons of resentment, and protecting oneself from enduring a similar situation. However, years of harboring can develop into a lifetime of pain. A lifetime of giving power to a person, or situation that could have been resolved within! A lifetime of being vigilant in anger; spilling- over into the ways in which you handle people, or similar circumstances... It can consume you! and possibly reveal your "bags" to everyone. So what do you do? FORGIVE YOURSELF FIRST!!!
Forgive Yourself- for putting your ALL into a relationship, only to have your significant other walk away from the union, or even cheat & lie.
Forgive Yourself- for staying in a f*cked relationship, and being hopeful for the love, only have it end badly and face opinions and embarrassment from your friends.
Forgive Yourself- for calling too damn much! Snooping, and pushing him away because your trust has been violated in that, and other relationships due to infidelity.
Forgive Yourself- for lying, or cheating, or even breaking someones heart, because you may not have been as invested in the relationship, and didn't know how to tell your partner.
Forgive Yourself- for enduring abuse from a person, and being too scared to leave.
Forgive Yourself- for hurting someones feelings, and breaking their spirit, and vice versa.
Forgive Yourself- for over reacting, and sending a 7 page text message telling your partner how you truly feel, only to have him or her not respond.
Forgive Yourself- for those long, sleepless nights, prevalent with feelings of uncertainty and pain.
THE LIST GOES ON & ON!!!!.....
The important piece of forgiving yourself, is that you open an door for healing past the situation. Though your pain may run deep, and may have impacted you physically or emotionally, you are offering yourself an opportunity to move forward...
AND HOW DO YOU FORGIVE YOURSELF????
First acknowledge the issues or circumstance; Admit your true feelings to yourself about the person, situation or circumstance; embrace the way it made you feel; Totally accept what the outcome was; Acknowledge the part you played in the situation; Rethink the pain, "I was not a victim, instead, I SURVIVED THIS SITUATION; Be honest with your emotions, if its sadness, fear, or even anger you still harbor, recognize it and seek to make peace within; Lastly, BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF!
Do this often, understand that, acknowledgement of the issue, is the main street to healing...
WHAT WILL BE THE RESULT OF DOING THIS???.....
Eventually, you will be able to forgive the person or situation for which you experienced. You will be able to move past the hurt and pain, you will be able to move forward, you will be able to offer yourself, and your love to someone else,.... And lastly, FREE YOURSELF!!!!!
LETS DO THIS TOGETHER!!!!
~THE MISUNDERSTOOD SOCIAL WORKER~
© 2014, Joseph D. Williams